Trying to use this more

[chameleons3]

We constantly forget DW exists. That is a shame because it has a lot of utility.

We process aloud often, and relationally, and get a lot out of holding space for others. That means making a habit of checking online spaces that aren't just Discord. Even remembering to check Mastodon can be a struggle.

We are not doing poorly. Not anymore. there were four days in a row that on their own would've been difficult. But back to back we just imploded. Collapsed. Were soup for a while. Blendy isn't bad on its own but can be hard when it's due to distress. Were talking slowly and with a lot of effort, words were hard, thinking was hard, everything was so difficult to tolerate.

Once we did some somatic regulating, we were able to cope. Then blew something out of proportion that got us whacked out again (got enyo whacked out, therefore all of us) and then got some somatic co-regulating to feel decent. 

Not in our window of tolerance yet, but better.

We need to make a habit of using this site. It's very good.

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[chameleons3]

Access filters walkthrough may be helpful. So far Chameleons just post things that feel ok to have public. Maybe access filters allow for more fluidity. - Arini

[beepbird]

They absolutely do!

[beepbird]

So, more specific access filter settings are on this page.

I can send you screenshots of an example on Discord if needed, but you should see three columns. The leftmost is the filters. You can name them whatever you'd like, but it's a good idea to make it something memorable for whatever purpose it's serving. Like, I have one called "Full Trust" for friends I trust to see the more private posts.

If you click "New", it'll make a new filter for you. The other two columns come into play now. The middle column is a list of everyone "in your circle" who follows you (unsure if people you follow are also included- maybe?). The rightmost column is a list of people who are on the selected access filter. There's "add" and "remove" buttons in between that move people between the two columns. Basically, this is where you decide who can see posts marked with that filter.

Make sure to click "Save Changes"!

When you make or edit a post, you can set its access level. There's a button next to the "Post" button. It probably says "Public" for you right now. If you click it, you can pick a few options.

"Public" lets literally anyone see it.

"Access locked" lets people in your circle see it- specifically, people with "access". (When you're on someone else's Dreamwidth page, you should see an option at the top to add them to your circle or modify your relationship. "Access" refers to being able to see posts on your access locked filter. Think of it as a default access filter.)

"Private" means only you can see it.

"Custom filtered" lets you add your lovely custom access filters to the post.

[chameleons3]

So you can choose specific accounts to see specific kinds of things? This is pretty neat. Not sure if we have enough users in our circles for this to be effective yet. But we could always poke around.

Thank you.

[beepbird]

That's exactly right! If you need any nice folks to connect with, let me know. I either know some people or know how to look.

[chameleons3]

Nice folks. Yes please. ^_^